Marriage

Marriage 50^th

" A wife of noble character who can find?

She is worth far more than rubies.

Her husband has full confidence in her

and lacks nothing of value."

(Proverbs 31:10,11 )

Tomorrow, July 28, 2018, June and I will celebrate our 50^th wedding anniversary. We were married on her 30^th birthday. She has been a blessing to me and I often refer to her as being the light at the end of my tunnel. She helped escort me from my dark period of the 60’s into something better- that seems to be still growing. Fifty years is a long time and it was not all romance and happy times. There was alcohol treatment, recovery, career moves and stress, the challenges of raising four children and just living with Bob who does not always make sense!

           I often discuss the many wonderful benefits of a good marriage: the great mutual support, the care when illness arrives, the mutual celebrations of the many events that occur. Yes, marriage is truly a great institution when things are well and blessed by God.

Thought for Today: Today let’s keep it simple and enjoy our significant other and those others around us.

Prayer for the Week: Heavenly Father, today we give thanks for the people that you have placed close to us in our lives. We pray that as this week progresses, we can share our love with friends, family and others who we meet. 

Amen

Marriage Again

Many times it has been stated that marriage is the world’s toughest job. Let me quote from The Mystery of Marriage by Mike Mason.

            “Marriage, even under the best of circumstances, is a crises; one of the major crises

of life. It is a dangerous thing not to be aware of this. Whether it turns out to be a healthy,

challenging and constructive crises or a disastrous nightmare depends largely upon how willing

the partners are to be changed, how malleable they are."

            "Crises" seems a bit extreme to me, but certainly marriage is a great opportunity for the

fulfillment of life and it certainly is not without its "opportunities" for either success or failure. A marriage blessed by God, one in which the partners have allowed God's love to grow in their

relationship is one of the world’s greatest experiences.

June and I have been blessed.

Stand Up and Be Counted

Standing         

“Standing on the promise of Christ my King,

Through eternal ages let his praises ring;

Glory in the highest, I will shout and sing,

Standing on the promises of God.”

(Promises verse 1)

(written by R. Kelso Carter 1849-1926)

            This is one of June’s favorite Hymns that covers a lot of issues in our lives. What do we stand for? What is the promise? They are simple questions that I will over simplify today.

            First, we stand for ethical Christian behavior that will benefit ourselves and everyone around us. We stand for living by following the Ten Commandments. Examples of being good are needed in our world and we are designated to show our stuff!

            Second, the promise is Grace; given to us by Christ when he died on the cross. We want to think there are more promises than that. When we need more money, more self-control, more time; more …etc! Somehow we feel deserving. We want what we want when we want it! We already have what we need; Grace!

We need to show off, stand for our faith!

Thought for Today: Today let us stand out in the crowd; stand for our Christian beliefs.

 Prayer for Today: Dear Lord and father, we find it easy to sit and watch. Today we pray for the opportunity and courage to stand up and be counted in your name.

Amen

A Still Place

"Be still and know that I am God"

 (Psalm 46:10)

            The world is a busy place and today’s message is not for June and I any more, but it applied for all the years we were raising our children, running three businesses, active in our church etc. I believe it is one of the reasons we made it through it all and the reason we are not overbooked seniors.

            Many Americans are overbooked; families are tied up every day with career and children’s activities; empty nesters seem to have filled the time with commitments; often retirees do not know how they ever had time to work! That leads to a lot of stress, tension and often family failures. That’s correct; the family that plays too much together just may not have enough quality time to survive. They do not have time to call for help.

            In his book Bread for the Table, Henry Nouwen says it this way, “These are words to take with us in our busy lives. We may think about stillness in contrast to our noisy world. But perhaps we can go further and keep an inner stillness even while we carry on … It is important to keep a still place in the "marketplace". This still place is where God can dwell and speak to us. …with that stillness God can be our gentle guide in everything we think and do.”

Thought for Today: We are experiencing a different world than we grew up with. Terror attacks, financial issues and even the weather seem to add complexity to our already overbooked lives. This week let us recognize the need for peace in our personal lives. Let’s make room for that stillness and peace that we can find through our faith.

Prayer for Today: Heavenly Father, the world around us is confusing, sometimes cruel and always difficult to understand. Please allow us time to step aside from our busyness and dwell upon "your will" rather than "our wants and needs". Let us find the peace or stillness to allow "thy will to be done on earth as it is in heaven."

Belief

Belief

“Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer,

believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.”

(Mark 11 vs. 24)

            When we pray we generate a certain amount of doubt in our minds. Often we are testing God to do something we cannot believe in. As we get older some of us pray to be younger or to be able to do the things we did 20 years ago. Those prayers largely go unanswered. Our pastor talks about praying for the terminally ill. He prays that they will find peace with the Lord. He also prays for the family and their future.

            Recently on our prayer chain we prayed that a person would receive a liver transplant. That is a catch 22 because someone has to die for that to happen. What a conundrum. We were not praying for a death, we were praying that if someone died that they could make the ultimate gift, the gift of life. That is still something to consider!

            It seems that Mark is correct though when he says “believe that you have received it …” A strong belief seems to improve the success rate through prayer.

Thought for Today: For today let us keep it simple and enjoy the day!

Prayer for Today: Heavenly Father today we pray a simple prayer. Today is the day that you made for us and today we thank you for that and the opportunity to enjoy it.

Independence Day

Independence Day

"It is for freedom that Christ has set us free.
Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves
be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.

(Galatians 5:1)

            Independence is what makes America great and our many freedoms make this a great place to live. Our constitution is based on our ability to self govern. Below is a quote credited to James Madison, our fourth President.

"We have staked the whole of all our political Institutions upon the capacity of mankind for Self-Government, the capacity of each and all of us to govern ourselves, to control ourselves, to sustain ourselves according to the Ten Commandments of God."

Pray about where we were then and where we are now.

Thought for Today: Today let’s celebrate our independence by obeying the Lord’s commandments.

Prayer for Today: Dear Lord and Father, our country celebrates its independence. Our freedoms are based on your laws and our abilities to obey them. Today we pray for spiritual growth, honesty, integrity and ethics.

Amen

Joy

Joy

“The Lord is my strength and my shield. My heart trusts in him and I am helped.

My heart leaps for joy and I will give thanks to him in song."

(Psalm 28:7)

            Is there joy in our lives? Let us face it, most of us have a lot more positives than

Negatives; JOY.  Our family, friends and associates are sources of great joy. It is July, the

grass is green; the trees are full and flowers are showing their colors. It is easy to see this kind of joy.

               Here is my story of joy. June 30^th 1967 was one of the darkest and longest days of my life! I had a three drink lunch and took off early to get to a happy hour. Met my roommate, Barry, and handed him the car keys. Picked up some friends and Barry drove 175 miles to a fourth of July weekend party. Oh, and I was in the back seat with a few beers! Yes, I was a depressed alcoholic on a binge.

            At some time around two in the morning at a ski lodge in North Conway, New Hampshire, there was a Devine intervention that I was too drunk to remember. Somehow outside of a ladies room I introduced myself to a British Lady named June Holloway. I hardly remember that meeting.

            The following evening I was sober…too hung over to drink… and Barry pointed June out to me and filled me in a bit on my totally inappropriate behavior the previous evening! I approached her with the only pick up line that I had in me at that time; “Excuse me, I believe that I owe you an apology for last night’s behavior.”

            We will be married 50 years this July 28^th. You see, my higher power, God, intervened and placed great joy in my life! He will do the same for you if you let him in!

As Paul said to the Romans (15:13); "May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the

power of the Holy Spirit."

   Thought for Today: Let us keep joy at the forefront of our thoughts. When challenged with life, let's use our shield - the Lord.

Prayer for Today: Heavenly Father, many of our friends are fighting battles. Our world and country seem to be in turmoil. We enter this week when we will celebrate Independence Day. For this week let us celebrate the Joy of being an American and stand proud!

Life Goals

Life Goals

“Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed;

life does not consist in an abundance of possessions.”

(Luke 12 vs. 15)

            In our democratic society we are encouraged to compete in the workplace and elsewhere. In the 50’s there was the term “Keeping up with the Jones’s.” In the 90’s that seemed to become “Leave the Jones’s behind.”  The two car family of the 60’s became the two home, four cars and a boat family of the new millennium. It is easy to understand why attendance and giving in church declined; no one has any time or money left!

            This is not meant to be a stewardship message asking for more. It is meant as a caution and designed to provoke thought. One of my blessings was being raised in a household with two cars and two homes. When we moved to Minnesota, the land of 10,000 lakes and 10 million lake homes, we said no way. You see, I grew up maintaining two homes with my dad and did not want to ever do that again!

            In confession June and I did have too much stuff and too many things. We downsized in 2006 and have not finished yet!

            Jesus is clear in his message as reported by Luke. Life is about spiritual growth, love within the community, helping others, being comfortable in your own skin etc. Happiness has nothing to do with stuff or things.

Thought for Today: Today let us think about what we need to get through the day and contemplate what we want. Let’s try to understand the differences.

Prayer for the Day: Heavenly Father, today we are blessed and live in a great society. We ask forgiveness for our participation in the blatant consumption encouraged in our world. We pray that as we move forward we experience the blessing of learning what our real needs are and experience the true abundance of your love.

Amen